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Build Your Self Esteem, a Guide to Self Improvement

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Updated April 21, 2014

How do you stay cool, composed, and sustain your self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a starter guide to self improvement.

Imagine yourself as a dart board. Everything and everyone else around you may become dart pins at one point or another. These dart pins will tear down your self esteem and pull you down in ways you won't even remember. Don't let them destroy you or get the best of you. So which dart pins should you dodge?

Dart Pin #1: Negative Work Environment
Beware of "dog eat dog" environments where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will be grateful for your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you work too much without getting help from people concerned. Stay out of this; it will ruin your self esteem.

Dart Pin #2: Other People's Behavior
Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, controllers, naggers, complainers, patronizers -- all these types of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self improvement scheme.

Dart Pin #3: Changing Environment
Change challenges our paradigms. It tests our flexibility and adaptability, and alters the way we think. Change will make life difficult for awhile and may cause stress, but it will help us find ways to improve ourselves.

Dart Pin #4: Negative World View
Don't wrap yourself up with all the negativity of the world. In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of the worst situations.

Dart Pin #5: Determination Theory
Your behavioral traits are said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing, and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company you work for, the economy, and/or your circle of friends. But remember that you have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn't mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people's mistakes.

Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive and staying positive is a choice. Building self esteem and drawing lines for self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent.

Building self esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have, and what we do. I'ts like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline. Self esteem brings about self improvement, true assessment, and determination.

So how do you start putting up the building blocks of self esteem? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment someone. A positive way of living will help you build self esteem, your starter guide to self improvement.

David Elefant has written many articles about building self-confidence and self-esteem. 

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